Here is one more story of a woman who was living under verbal and emotional abuse.
After 25 years she tried to leave; unsuccessfully. He followed her and killed her.
Here is a fact you rarely hear, but it’s true. Abusers don’t get better.
Abuse escalates with time.
From the Tallahassee Democrat:
Karl Etters, Democrat staff writer
…After 25 years of trying to make their relationship work, she was ready for a divorce.
She was trying to escape what her family said had become a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship.
Judy was as devoted to her kids as she was to her faith. Her gentle and calm demeanor shone through her love for them.
“She was one of the most patient mothers with her children and loved them so,” her mother, Dorothy Yoder, said Tuesday before going to a viewing service for the family. “She really poured her heart and life into them.”
Judy was also an attentive wife, her mother said, even as the couple struggled in their marriage.
Judy sought help through online communities dedicated to Christian women with large families and women struggling with difficult marriages.
“The great irony is, of course, that he has revealed to the world that he didn’t deserve that respect,” Carter said. “She was afraid most people wouldn’t believe her if she came out and said ‘this is what’s happening.’”