Hi, my name is Carolyn.
I’m an abuse advocate who encourages the relationally oppressed to reclaim their voice, worth, safety, strength, gifting, and purpose. I’ve lived through this battle. I was married to an angry, abusive pastor suffering severe mental illness, a personality disorder, and who had deep sexual addictions. When I left him I lost all my friends in the ministry; except for one married couple. The few ministry friends who cared to ask what the problem was didn’t believe me; the rest simply didn’t inquire. Thankfully the church staff of my home church where I grew up was very supportive, with the exception of some church members. The harshness that some people dealt me was severe and I was devastated; retraumatized. Years later my former husband went to prison for the rest of his life because of his addictions that led to sex crimes against children.
Here is the creative spin I put on my life as a mom:
- I customize an education for children of different ages, learning styles, needs and interests.
- Research analyst in childhood development with special emphasis on: psychology, learning disabilities, and traumatic brain injury rehabilitation. (See #1)
- Researcher and participant in practical application for: Thriving despite difficult circumstances. (See #2)
I blog about:
- My prayer life; God’s leading and His answers. Ordinary people are the history makers through the power of prayer.
- Toxic relationships. Many people don’t realize they are living with a toxic spouse, or are in a toxic relationship with family, a friend, or co-worker. (I understand tone is lost in written prose so understand this is said in gentleness; not degrading those who suffer from mental illness). Just because we are Christians does not mean we have to be walked all over, verbally shredded, emotionally manipulated, physically harmed, sexually abused or backed in the corner by those suffering from mental illness who refuse to seek help and healing, by those who refuse treatment for their personality disorder, or by those who refuse to turn from their wrong choices. Boundaries are necessary. Safety is achievable. Love is essential.
- Destructive marriages fall under the category of toxic relationships. This is a topic family court’s have yet to understand and countless women and children are being retraumatized by judges and guardian ad litems. I desire to educate the church body on helping people in abusive/destructive marriages. For too long Christians have placed the importance of the institution of marriage over the safety, sanity, and health of the abused spouse and children. The Bible has numerous passages on how to deal with unfaithful, emotionally destructive, foolish abusers.
- Et Cetera: consists of home projects, service projects, and occasionally my most asked for recipes; chocolate and Tex-Mex. My favs! Maybe I should say were…since I now live an auto-immune protocol life style for auto-immune diseases. I’m quickly learning to adjust these recipes for my specific needs.
Are you limping like Jacob (Genesis 32:22-31), waiting on fulfillment of a calling on your life like Joseph (Genesis 37-47), or being delivered through the fire like Shadrack, Meshach and Abed-nego (Daniel 3:8-30)? Be encouraged. Be empowered. Be on your knees in prayer. Then—be blessed; in good times, in despair, and everything in between.
Christian blogger, St. Louis, Missouri
(Over qualified in the areas of trauma and toxic relationships.) 😜
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