Lynn Messer’s family history

Two and a half years ago I reached out to the Messer brothers through social media and explained to them who I am, why I blog, what my background is, and that I wrote a blog post about their mom’s disappearance.

I told them if they wanted to share anything with my readers I would be honored to listen, and to be a voice for their mom.  I assured them that I understood if they didn’t have the time, energy, or interest to schedule this in their lives right now.

They both kindly replied.

Today I’m reposting some of the memories Abram has and things he thinks as he looks at the past and present. Here is a portion of Abram Messer’s reply from July 2016, “I’ve been thinking about reaching out to you to not only thank you for your piece, but to see if you would be interested in talking to me. One of the many issues that I struggle with having grown up in a home where destructive ideology  was normal is my desire to break, (I pray permanently) the sin cycle and demonstrate a Biblical example for my children to see. I would love to share more of our story with you. Thank you for following the prompting of the Holy Spirit to reach out to me.”

According to Abram Messer, and confirmed with the Ste Genevieve County Sheriff’s Office, Kerry Messer, was no longer cooperating with the investigation and hadn’t been since 2015.  And with this, I can tell you that Abram had been doing what no child, no matter what age, could ever imagine having to do. He had been assisting in an investigation that had questions about his dad, due to the disappearance of his mom.

During my conversation with Abram, he conveyed his appreciation and trust in the Ste. Genevieve County Sheriff’s Office. He explained they have, and continue to do a terrific job. He equally included the hours of interviews, over the last two years, they conducted with him. Abram mentioned how investigators stepped inside his head and pulled out information he wouldn’t have thought of on his own. He reflected that if the authorities need another 9 hour interview from his head he will give it every day. Abram has complete faith in their ability because they want to come to the truth. So if you have heard by word of mouth, or read in other news outlets, that the investigators aren’t doing their job it simply isn’t true.

*Disclaimer: There have been no arrests made in the disappearance of Lynn Messer. Kerry Messer remains innocent of any charges. I am not claiming a diagnosis or guilt; but simply pointing out concerns. See disclaimer in the margin.

I will walk you through a bit of Messer family history according to Lynn and Kerry’s son, Abram. While talking to Abram, I could have literally finished some of his sentences for him because I think I understand what he lived through growing up and I understand some of the mind-set I hear and read about his father.

I’ve often wondered why people are easily hoodwinked by the possibility of dual personality individuals. I wonder if it’s from having a good heart that’s always looking for the best in people; because who goes around looking for evil.  We tend to believe what we see. If we were at the theatre watching a play we would expect to see grand acting, but we don’t anticipate seeing it in the office, at church, at school, at the store, or standing in the driveway talking to a neighbor.

If you think it was easy for Abram to recall this history, I can tell you it wasn’t. There were a few times I thought our phone call had disconnected, but no, he needed time to process what he wanted to say. He loves his mom. He loves his dad.  He wants to help other families, other women, and other victimizers recognize abuse before it’s too late. He speculated that recent events have changed how he views his relationship with his wife and children. He believes human nature will do one of two things.

  1. Repeat the Cycle

  2. Go to the opposite extreme

We both agreed that there is a better option. Stop holding any person to a standard you want to achieve, or a low you want to avoid. Our standard is Jesus. If His heart, mind, way and will is what we chase after we will always be progressing in a good and healthy direction.

Survivors and witnesses share their stories because it could be the key that leads to freedom for other victims. Abram was clear on his objectives for speaking out about his family life and his mom’s disappearance. You can read, LYNN MESSER: 3 OBJECTIVES, by clicking here.

Abram thought for a long time his father lived two lives. Kerry seemed different at home than he was at church or anywhere else. Out of curiosity I asked, “How old were you when you came to this realization?”

Abram didn’t have to think about the answer, he knew it, “Between 10 and 12 years old.”

I asked because 10-12 seems to be a common age when children become aware of abusive or mentally unstable parents. Children often wonder if something is wrong sooner, but that tends to be the age when they know, and can understand it and verbalize it.

Abram conveyed that he grew up having a dread of daddy coming home from work; just knowing he would come home from work caused anxiety because he knew dad only cared about work. When at friends’ homes he envied the kids’ excitement when their daddy arrived home from work. They would excitedly run to the window waiting for their father to walk through the door to great them.

The term, “Ma” that Kerry uses in his Facebook posts on the, “Find Lynn Messer” page originated when the boys were around 14-15 years old. The term came from the Ma and Pa Kettle films. Lynn never liked the term, and requested that Kerry not use it but he chose not to respect her wish.  Abram didn’t use the term; to his knowledge, thinks only Kerry used it.

A point that has stuck in many minds is how dependable Lynn was for commitments she made; such as VBS (Vacation Bible School). Lynn spent months preparing for the church VBS program every year. On Monday, July 7, 2014, Lynn went to Wal-Mart and purchased supplies for the Tuesday VBS program. She was prepared. She was excited. She was scheduled to participate the next day; Tuesday, July 8, 2014, but Lynn was a no-show to VBS.

Kerry reportedly hid financial records from Lynn and refused to write balances in checkbooks leaving Lynn to constantly fret over finances.

In 1984 Kerry began working for Missouri Family Network as a lobbyist for pro-life, family and homeschool causes. M.F.N. was one of a few small organizations that worked across the gamut on these issues. Kerry has quietly encouraged M.F.N. supporters to write the checks in his name, Kerry Messer.  I’ve talked to other individuals who remember this as well.

Abram told about his dad’s decision to drive older used vehicles. There came a time about three years ago when a married couple from their church became burdened for Kerry because he didn’t have a dependable car to drive back and forth to Jefferson City. This sweet and caring couple went to friends and quietly fundraised. They happily sacrificed, knowing the Messers didn’t have money for another vehicle, and bought Lynn and Kerry a new car that would be dependable for work and family life. Weren’t they wonderful friends? Yes! But guess what? According to Abram, his dad didn’t want to drive the new car, especially not to Jefferson City, because donors wouldn’t want to give financial gifts to him if they thought he had enough money to purchase such a nice looking new car. Thus, his decision to stick with older models that looked the part of poor, financially needy lobbyist. I wondered what became of the car. Abram said his mom was in an accident with that car and it was totaled.

A man who couldn’t afford a dependable car and yet has accumulated a reported two and a half million dollars in assets while family members think he managed to keep it completely hidden from Lynn.

Abram mentioned overriding character questions he had about his dad.

  • It seemed there was one way to do everything; and it was his dad’s way?

  • Took an excessively long time deciding how to complete tasks with perfection being the goal; making it difficult to begin the task?

  • Didn’t like to involve others in completing projects or work tasks?

  • Money was hidden and hoarded?

  • Had a deep need to control everything and everyone around him?

  • Held a strong belief that husbands are to dominate their wives?

  • Dishonest, fraudulent, duplicitous personality. Changed according to his audience?

  • Took advantage of others to get what he wanted?

  • Lacked empathy; was willing to lie about his own kids to save himself?

  • Craved admiration; read the, “Find Lynn Messer” FB page?

  • Fabricated stories and fantasies of ideal love to attract attention, read the, “Find Lynn Messer” FB page?

  • Life was about him?

  • Didn’t bond with people?

Abram revealed that Lynn did suffer physical abuse at the hands of his father. Although Kerry took the time on the 11/22/2014 Facebook post to expand on his beliefs of women not violating the secrecy of marriage; specifically of his, “Bride” being wise to guard herself on what she shares about her husband with other women. She wisely did just the opposite! Kerry went on to post, “There are things husbands and wives know that no one should ever be told. The home is a place where virtually every social taboo no longer applies. The home is where we all get to relax and drop all our guards (and dog gone it, everyone has gas – get over it). But you still don’t talk about many things in ways that violate your mate. And the list of such topics can get long. A little discretion affirms a lot of love!”JusticeForLynnMesser

Thankfully, Lynn, had shared with some women about the abuse she suffered in the home; abuse from Kerry, because social taboos are wrong for a reason. These women have reportedly fully cooperated with investigators and presented the truth that Lynn has not been able to offer in person.

I often say, if a woman is strong enough to stay; she is strong enough to leave.

Did Lynn finally realize her husband was not capable of change and decided to adjust her life? Did she fail to realize he was willing to keep toxic control with any means necessary?

If you believe your life may be in jeopardy; please listen to me as I gently, but firmly, tell you, “Leave immediately.” Go to the authorities. Go to Domestic Violence. Go to  a counselor. Document the abuse in every way possible. See: It is Real You are Write.  If you plan on confronting your abuser about his toxic ways it is best to do it in the company of a witness or witnesses. See Toxic Intervention. Scroll down the left margin of this blog for, “Articles: Other Sources” and “Solutions-Hotlines-Help.”

I will leave you with this quote from Abram,

“To know in the middle, of not knowing what happened, that God did not wake up the morning of July 8, 2014, and say, ‘Wow, I didn’t see this coming!’ I know he will use all this to our benefit;  to change us, to mold us…there is some solace to that.”

 

*Disclaimer: The above thoughts and memories do not come from me. These are someone else’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the ideas or opinions of this website.  I am committed to publishing works of integrity. In that spirit, The testimony presented in this letter does not constitute legal facts, a guarantee, or a prediction regarding the outcome of advice given, or of future events.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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1 year since Lynn Messer’s remains found

Today, November 1, 2017, marks one year from the day of Lynn Messer’s remains being found on her husband’s farm property. Property that had been searched with GPS tracking equipment in the daylight and in the dark. It had also been searched by professionally trained dogs who would have picked up the scent of the remains; especially in the hot July and August heat.

Lynn Messer, disappeared July 8, 2014. We now know that Lynn has been deceased the entire time and I have been told by law enforcement that Kerry Messer, her husband, has not been cleared in the investigation surrounding Lynn’s death.  Kerry is a Missouri state lobbyist who represents family, homeschooling, right-to-life, gun safety, and Christian/Biblical values.

As a courtesy to Lynn’s church I want to update my readers that I’ve been told Kerry no longer attends FBC FCC and hasn’t since the weekend the scheduled memorial service was cancelled. 

In the spirit of keeping this case in the public’s eye and in honor of Lynn’s memory, I asked her sons Aarron and Abram questions about their mom, and the ongoing investigation. 

Q: What has your favorite memory of your mom been since knowing for the last year that she is now in heaven and has been the entire 3+ years?
 
Aarron: I remember seeing my mom sing along throughout the house to Ray Boltz’ song Thank You, while watching the tears swell in her eyes picturing all the people she impacted throughout her life greeting her in heaven.
Abram: So many things I could say in response to that. But more than a specific memory I remember what she taught me. She taught me how to laugh, how to love and taught me to pursue Jesus Christ. I am who I am today because of her guidance, love and passion for Christ.
Elizabeth (Abram’s wife): My very favorite memory of Lynn would involve cooking. We would spend days in the kitchen just cooking and laughing. We would set aside a day every December to do nothing but make cookies and fudge. All 7 grand kids lined up decorating and tasting cookies. Christmas music on the old radio. The house full of excitement, warmth, and love. The house would smell of cookies and the wood burning stove. Every table and counter top would be piled with big beautiful Christmas cookies that were equally tasty. I never remember Lynn burning a single cookie. They always turned out perfect. Lynn would often take cookies to neighbors, and send the grand kids home with enough cookies to last the entire Christmas season. (Below: First 2 pages of a hand written cookbook from Lynn to Elizabeth.)Lynn verse 2
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Q: Do you have something she said to you that often replays in your mind?
 
Aarron:  Everyday it’s something else; another memory, another thought. 
 
Q: Is there something she said to you that has left you wondering if she was trying to tell you something was wrong in the home?
 
Aarron: Before she disappeared there was an evening. I had just been divorced in September of the year before and I had been spending a lot of time with my new girlfriend. My mom called me stressed—worried about me. I invited her and my dad to come over but we were making dinner at my girlfriends’ home; therefore, my dad wouldn’t come but my mom drove to Pevely at 9 PM and just talked.  It was like she was watching us; as if my mom had felt I needed her and she was seeing that despite the stresses in my life I wasn’t falling apart. I was happy and going forward in life and it was like watching her realize I didn’t need her.  I have relived that evening a hundred times over in my head wondering what she was thinking.  She was so quiet. Penny (my girlfriend) and I have talked about how strange mom acted that evening. It was like she wanted to say something to us but she didn’t——she was so quiet.  We both, even then, wondered what it was and ever since we have wondered what was on her mind. Did she want to tell us about Spring?  Was she afraid to say something?
Abram: Lots of things. The stress of knowing that my father was on his way home, the way she phrased things always trying to make excuses and explain away my father’s behavior—and the way she tried to love us enough to make up for his narcissistic behavior.
 
Q: Are you confident the case will be solved? 
 
Aarron: Her cause of death is unknown… How solved is that?  I have heard that my dad has told people my mom’s death was a suicide.  But the toxicology report showed no drugs, there was no weapon found with her.  How did she die?  If she killed herself there would be a weapon, or a drug in her system.  She wasn’t dying on her own; how did she die?  There wasn’t any of those things. She didn’t die of natural causes, so as we can see her body was clearly dumped in the woods.  Detectives are clear; my dad moved her body. If he would just be honest maybe this will be solved.  I am just waiting for the day when he breaks and tells the truth.

Abram: Over the last three years God has impressed upon me repeatedly throughout His Word how much He loves justice. The Hand of God is not slacked, He will in His perfect timing see justice prevail. Even should His timing be not on this earth, I will not give up. I will not quit, and I will not give up on my God’s incredible ability to take our darkest hours and illuminate them with His glorious light. I know that He will take this nightmare and use it in powerful and mighty ways to allow us to both minister to others who are struggling as well as allowing us to see His powerful sustaining hands. I know this because I already can see how He has moved in our midst in amazing ways. 

“Hope thou in God.” I am confident that the case will be solved because my hope is in God, not man. 
 
Q: Did you have an ah-ha moment when you discerned that your mom may not have disappeared of her own free will?
 
Aarron: There honestly was never a moment where I thought she left on her own.  From the first moment I knew she was gone nothing made sense.  Knowing that her body was moved and that my father has been lying, manipulating, and covering up where she was…it was the first thing/answer that made sense.
Abram: For me it was a slow realization of facts that I knew, and watching my father’s behavior. The truth became clearer and clearer as the days turned into weeks and months. This realization finally became undeniable. Then it was a matter of being honest with myself. Was I unwilling to accept what I was seeing with my own eyes, and hearing with my own ears? I wasn’t dependent on a third-party to tell me what they heard, and none of my thoughts or opinions are based on what other people told me. I came to these conclusions because I lived it. The truth doesn’t change because we don’t like it, nor does it change because it is hard for us to accept. Several of these facts were staring at me from the beginning, 
Q: Likewise, did you have a time when you thought you pin-pointed a specific person having knowledge to the truth of what happened to your mom?
 
Aarron: When I confronted my dad about his relationship with Spring Thomas it became incredibly clear that he was hiding information about what happened to Mom.
Abram: Absolutely. When I watched my father interact with law enforcement, telling them that he was not going to search for my mom. That was a turning point for me in my pursuit of the truth. 
 
Q: In hind sight, is there one thing that sticks out in your mind that you wish you could change, or had done differently, in the investigation?
 
Aarron: That morning when she disappeared—I wish I had never let my dad out of my sight when he drove off the farm. I wish I had never left the farm when he told me to leave.
Abram: The cows. Not so much in the investigation, but the fact that I was manipulated into covering a scent trail… and the many ways we have been twisted and used as pawns in someone else’s sick demented game will haunt me for the rest of my life.
 
Q: When is the last time you had contact with your dad?
 
Aarron: Ironically yesterday (Saturday).  A few weeks ago he left a note on my door demanding an increase in the rent I pay him; from $450 a month to $650. I wrote him back attempting to negotiate. He won’t respond of course.  I asked if he could give me a year lease since he has insisted that my rent be month to month.  Then the hot water heater in the apartment went out; I fixed it.  Then the sewer backed up into the apartment. I texted him several times asking about the sewer trying to get it fixed but he wouldn’t respond.  Then he did respond; acknowledging that there was a septic tank somewhere in the backyard. He couldn’t tell me where, but that he buried a soda can on top of it so I can use a metal detector to find it.  Not the highlight though; no! Saturday was opening day of youth firearm season so my daughter and I were hunting on the farm.  Dad and Spring each drove past us in our stand on his four wheelers; then they moved the cows into the field in front of us where we were hunting.  After 10-20 minutes of driving around the field he drove up to us and said the cows will be here til Tuesday.  So we packed up and started walking to another field to set up again to hunt.  He followed us while we walked a half mile across the farm.  After we setup again he pulled up and told me I couldn’t go to the back field because he had sold hunting rights on the farm to someone else and we aren’t allowed to be there.  This is the field directly above where I found my mother’s remains.  So here on that anniversary of finding her body I am not allowed to go back to where her body was. UPDATE 10/31/2017: Just got home earlier; Dad finally responded. I have to move before December 1st as he doesn’t want me on the farm. He also said the kids cannot go hunting on the farm.
Abram: The last contact I have had with my father (outside of seeing him in the courtroom dealing with our protection order against him), was in May of 2015. 
 
Q: Has the pastor from First Baptist Church Festus Crystal City attempted to contact you since cancelling the memorial service your dad attempted to hold at the church?
 
Aarron: No, no one from FBC FCC contacted me before the scheduling of the memorial service even telling us that it was scheduled or after it was cancelled.  The only time I was contacted by his pastor was when the pastor was upset that the deacons from the church had read my Facebook posts and had asked him about the things I said. He asked to meet with me to tell me never to talk about his church again.  Several of the deacons came to me later…apologizing and trying to get to the truth.  I have had them call me once since just to let me know they are still looking for the truth.  No one from the staff has spoken to me since.
Abram:  Dr. McLain has made no attempts or offers of any kind to contact us. It is heartbreaking to know that the church leadership does not care to be obedient to the Word of God, either in their dealings with us or my father. 
Q: As far as you know, has your dad married Spring Thomas?
 
Aarron: Not that I know of although they spend most their time together.
Abram: To my knowledge he has not. But I would not be surprised if he had a secret wedding without a marriage certificate. Very little of his behavior surprises me at this point. I do know that their relationship is still on going. 
 
Q: I had a message left on my blog about your dad attempting to organize a search party to walk the roads near Spring’s house and to search her property in the early days of the investigation. Do your recall this request? Did volunteers ever do it?
 
Aarron: A search was coordinated to search along the roads from the farm toward Spring’s farm.  I actually went on that search. We met at McDonalds in House Springs and drove up Hwy W from MM and 30 towards Eureka. I rode with Spring in her car and we stopped in every driveway, talked to every person we saw, and knocked on every door on W.  A woman described someone looking very similar to Mom that had been walking along the road; even had two people describe someone who looked very much like Mom.  We gathered their info and passed it along to detectives but it was an empty lead.  No one ever searched Spring’s farm.  That was the only search associated with Spring’s farm.  It was nowhere near her farm but merely along a highway in the middle of nowhere.
Abram: I became aware that a request to that end had been made late in 2015, well after it had supposedly transpired. If it was in fact done, it was deliberately done without my knowledge and certainly without my cooperation. I have no idea if it was actually done or not. I do find it very interesting that my father would have potentially searched Spring’s property, while refusing to search his own. 
 
Q: Aarron, on another social media forum it was mentioned that Kerry suggested to you where you and your daughters should scout for deer hunting and it was the part of the property where your mom’s remains were located. Is this true?
 
Aarron: Detectives asked me about that.  My dad and I had talked about hunting—where to hunt that season, but my dad did not tell me where to go or suggest anywhere to go.  In retrospect he actually had indicated he thought we should go somewhere else and I told him I wanted to go up by the water gap. He made the comment that no one has been back there for years.  But no, he had no idea exactly where I was going and didn’t suggest we should go anywhere near her remains.  One truly frightening thing is that her body was on the hill-side that I have personally seen them take dead or dying cows that were sick and push them off into the woods to rot.
 
Q: At this point, has your dad attempted to make sure you receive some of your mom’s belongings?
 
Aarron: My father has explicitly told me that I am not allowed to enter his home under any circumstance.  I have asked to read my mom’s journals and have yet to get a response from him.  He invited my ex-wife over to the house to go through my mother’s things and take whatever she wanted, but I have received no invitation to even look at anything of my mothers.  In fact, he has given away many of her things—even saying on Facebook that he was getting rid of those items; without asking me a thing.
Abram: No he has not, and in fact quilts that my mom made for us seemed to have disappeared just as mysteriously as she did. Our wedding quilt, the quilt she made me in high school, and all but one of my children’s quilts she made them were taken from us. We knew that my father had taken them, but then we confirmed it when we discovered a photo my father posted on FB with my son’s quilt in the back ground. He was using it as a prop to garner sympathy at an event. It serves as a reminder to his double minded nature. The way he pretends to be this suffering, loving husband and father when in reality he stole my son’s precious link to his grandmother that he has had since birth. 
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Q: A young man who rents a duplex from your dad in Jefferson City left a comment on a social network forum that your mom’s death was an accident. He implied that Kerry had confided in him information about his (Kerry’s) family problems regarding Abram specifically, and your mom’s death? Has anyone else told you your mom’s death was an accident?
 
Aarron: The only one who has said that is my dad.
Abram: This new story that we heard about certainly wasn’t the first time he has told a completely new version of events. This is what happens when you lie. It gets harder and harder to define the truth. My father has sadly told so many different lies to so many people he can’t seem to keep his stories straight. Sin builds on itself. When we embrace it, wallow in it, and make it our own personal reality it will eat our soul like cancer. God Himself has pledged that the things done in darkness WILL be brought to the light. If anything I hope that people will take seriously seeing the consequences of sin. What it can do to you, your family and everyone you know. 
 
Q: Did you see the inside of your parent’s house the morning you were told your mom disappeared? Did you see the bedroom? If so, is there anything you wish you had thought of, or realized, that morning when your were looking through the house?
 
Aarron: The day she disappeared, when my dad drove off, I searched through the entire house looking for my mom.  There are two bedrooms that my parents slept in. They were sleeping in the bedroom on the ground floor at the time because of my mom’s hip, as opposed to their upstairs bedroom.  There was absolutely nothing that I thought to look for because I had no idea to look for anything; I was searching for her. 
Abram: No, I did not go into their house that morning. When I arrived at their house the morning of the 8th, I drove the 4 wheeler out in the barn lot to meet my father. He of course was absolutely irate the Aarron had called the sheriff’s department, and demanded that I leave, after he became more agitated I finally left. A short while later, when I returned the detectives where already in their house, and I was asked to remain outside while they where doing the initial processing of the scene. 
 
Q: According to my sources: 
1) Spring Thomas has said that your parents were at her house, together, a few days before your mom disappeared.
2) Your dad has told people he hadn’t been to Spring’s house for a month before your mom disappeared.
3) A family friend saw your mom, alone, in St. Louis a few days before she disappeared and your mom mentioned she was on her way to Spring’s house to pay her a visit.
 
These accounts are all different. What do you know about this?
 
Aarron: I don’t know anything more.
Abram: One of the very telling things throughout the investigation has been the constantly changing and evolving timeline, events and stories as conveyed by my father. I have personally heard my father say that it had been weeks since he was last at Spring’s house, and my mother was with him. But I also know that my mom went to see Spring days before she her death. I have no idea what Spring may or may not have said about these encounters. I know she is still refusing to cooperate with the investigation as well. 
 
 Q: I’ve received many comments and questions about the airing of Discovery Channel’s show; Disappeared. People want to know if the portrayal of you was accurate? Abram, was there more to your dad knocking on your door early that morning than what the show disclosed? 

Abram: For the most part I think they did a very good job in portraying the overall scenario. There are many things that I could be critical of, mostly the argument that I had with my mom was exaggerated and overdone. I would have liked it if they had talked about how we passed the CVSA lie detection tests, and to date my father has not been able to pass any of the lie detection tests that he has taken. However, I have had personal contact with most of the actors on the show and I know that the director took an “artistic license” with many things. In several follow-up conversations the producers asked for clarifications about several scenes, and even did some editing to make the performances more authentic. So I feel that the freedom that they took to make certain aspects more interesting was a trade-off that I was willing to make in exchange for our attempts to raise awareness and prayerfully to get help in searching for my mother. 

As to the morning of, I was much more confused and befuddled than my depiction on the show. 4:15 a.m. that morning I think my father had to find out if I had seen or heard anything that had happened. He HAD to know if I knew anything. The only way for him to know that was to show up. Another thought we’ve had is that we had installed a new chain lock on the door that he didn’t know about. He thought he could walk right in. The chain was latched which means the door was locked. He did not start yelling my name til after the chain caught and woke up the dogs. He could have been sneaking in and the chain caught him off guard. The question then would be why was he sneaking? What were his intentions?
 
Q: The fact that there are different pastures for the cows indicates there must be fences and gates on the property. Would these have presented any problems for your mom if…she were to walk around the property in the darkness, in a thunderstorm, with bad hips walking on uneven ground, carrying a pillow (possibly more) on her way to where she was found? 
Abram: Yes. There are multiple electric fences all over the property with gates that have to be opened for passageway. My wife who doesn’t have my mom’s health problems, and is taller than my mom with larger hands has difficulty opening and closing these gates with the strength of two hands in the daylight. Add to that, Mom would have been carrying a pillow, wearing no shoes through a blackberry patch, in the dark, in the rain and thunderstorm. She would have had to open and close multiple electric fence gates regardless of which way she walked…if she walked…which we don’t believe she did.
 **DISCLAIMER: ALL OF MY OPINIONS COME FROM RESEARCH, PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, AND DISCUSSIONS I MAY HAVE HAD WITH PROFESSIONALS. I RECEIVE NO MONETARY BENEFITS AND HOLD NO RESPONSIBILITY BY SHARING THE INFORMATION ASSOCIATED WITH THIS PAGE AND ITS CONTENTS. THE INFORMATION HEREIN IS NOT INTENDED AS A FORM OF DIAGNOSIS, TREATMENT, VERDICT, LEGAL ADVISE, OR A PREDICTION REGARDING AN OUTCOME OF AN INVESTIGATION. The answers to the above questions were written in their entirety by Lynn Messer’s sons. These are their memories, opinions, and accounts of interactions and conversations told from their viewpoints. I am committed to publishing works of integrity. In that spirit, I offer these questions and answers to my readers.

 

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Lynn Messer case: Kerry not cleared

UPDATE: THE MEMORIAL SERVICE HAS BEEN CANCELLED. I THANK THE CHURCH FOR DOING THE RIGHT THING. I’VE BEEN GIVEN MULTIPLE REASONS FROM DIFFERENT PEOPLE: THAT THE PASTOR AND DEACONS ARE NOT PLEASED WITH KERRY’S ONGOING BEHAVIOR, KERRY’S DIFFERENT ACCOUNTS OF ALREADY REPORTED INVESTIGATIVE INFORMATION, SAFETY CONCERNS, POSSIBLE PROTESTS, CHURCH MEMBER’S CONCERNS ABOUT KERRY’S RELATIONSHIP WITH SPRING THOMAS. I APPRECIATE THIS READER’S WORDS THEY INCLUDED IN A LETTER TO THE CHURCH THIS WEEK, “I cannot understand why you would choose to be more conduit to Kerry’s deception as the “grieving” spouse on Sunday.” THIS LETTER BY J. LEE GAVE BIBLICAL PRECEDENCE FOR CANCELLING THE SERVICE: ZECHARIAH 7: CLICK HERE TO READ THE LETTER.  

I’ve been hearing from several people who have received communication from Kerry Messer this week regarding the memorial for his deceased wife, Lynn.

They  are confused because they are being told that the investigation is closed, that JusticeForLynnMesserKerry has been cleared in the investigation of Lynn’s disappearance and death, and that Kerry did not become involved with Spring Thomas until 15 months after Lynn’s disappearance. 

“How do we know who to trust; Kerry, family members, you, media? Where do you get your information and how do you know it’s true?”

Thank you for asking.

I have four sources: the Ste. Genevieve County Sheriff’s Office, Lynn’s family members, Lynn’s friends, and other media sources. Detective White always proves to be approachable and answers questions as best he can. Often he can’t comment, but when he can he does.

I called Detective White today, August 18, 2017 for clarification. I don’t want to publish false news, misinformation, or downright lies. I asked permission to pose a few questions so I can clear up questions that some of my readers have, and to find out if investigative circumstances have changed since I talked to him a few weeks ago.

Questions are mine.

Answers are from Detective White of the Ste. Genevieve Sheriff’s Department.

Q: Has Kerry Messer now been cleared in the investigation of Lynn’s disappearance and death?

A: No.

Q: Has Abram been cleared in the investigation of Lynn’s disappearance and death? 

A: No comment. (Later he went back to this question for clarification as best as he could give.) Abram continues to cooperate with the investigation through law enforcement; answering questions when we have them. That cannot be said of Kerry Messer. 

Q: I’ve heard that the investigation has been closed. Is this true?

A: No.

Q: Word is getting back to me that Kerry is claiming the relationship between he and Spring didn’t begin until 15 months after Lynn’s disappearance. 

A: I don’t know the source of that information but it didn’t come from law enforcement. 

Here is a quote from the St. Louis Post Dispatch,  “But Schott, of the Sheriff’s Department, said detectives had confirmed a relationship between Kerry Messer and Thomas months earlier — about eight weeks after Lynn Messer disappeared.”

Q: I’m aware the Ste. Genevieve County prosecuting attorney’s wife passed away this spring. I don’t know if that has affected his position, but I do understand that his term is almost finished. Could this mean the investigation will remain at a stand still until a new prosecuting attorney comes on the scene?

A: No comment. It is true that prosecuting attorney Carl Kinsky’s term will be finished in 2018. An election will be held to fill the office.

Click here for Sherae Honeycutt’s interview: Lynn Messer laid to rest, questions remain. Major Jason Schott, “We won’t stop until we determine what caused Lynn’s death.”

Sherae Honeycutt: “What would you say to someone who might say this case is dead, you don’t have any suspects, you have inconclusive evidence at this point; what would you say to them?”

Major Jason Schott: “There may be stuff that we’re currently looking at that we cannot talk about because it is an active investigation.”

This gives me great hope that they believe they can solve the question of how Lynn died.

Below is more information on the timeline of Kerry and Spring Thomas’ relationship.

This is what Aarron said in the “Who is Spring Thomas?” post: “At the six week point of the investigation into mom’s disappearance Spring confirmed in a written statement that she was in fact in a relationship with my dad. After she made her statement to police she messaged Abram and in an odd conversation and asked Abram if it was appropriate for her to continue to participate in searches. Abram was flabbergasted; he had no idea why she would ask that. See, the only people aware of Kerry and Spring’s relationship at that time was Spring, Kerry, and investigators. Abram has since reflected that the purpose of that discussion was to identify if police had told him about the relationship.”

 

This was reported in the Misssouri Times: Son calls for Messer to come clean.

“No one is naive enough to believe this was a new relationship,” Abram said. “There was no time to have a relationship, no opportunity to spend meaningful time with someone. I don’t know how my father could say that they were just friends. It was way more than a friendship. Besides, I don’t know what kind of friends you need to take Viagra or Cialis to visit.

“While we were trying to figure out when this relationship could have started, we realized we had been taking cattle up to her farm for years,” Abram said. “I was never comfortable with the way my father acted around her. She acted like a boyhood crush had visited. Then we figured out why there was this sudden rush of stress.”

 

Daily Journal Online: Son shares another perspective on disappearance. “It was over a year after my mother went missing, whenever we started doing some more investigating after finding out my father had been hiding a relationship with another woman since August of 2014,” said Abram. “That is aside from the woman he claims he was pursuing as soon as eight weeks after my mother went missing. When we found all this out we began to question the things he was saying and that’s when we found out that she never went to any of those counseling sessions alone.”

 

St. Louis Post Dispatch: Missing woman case tears apart Jefferson City lobbying team. 

Both of Kerry Messer’s sons, Abram and Aarron, now doubt aspects of their father’s accounting of events relating to the disappearance of their mother.

Moreover, the sons are bitter over Kerry Messer’s decision to begin what their father describes as a romantic but chaste relationship with another woman — a decision that they say raises questions and sullies the reputation of the Missouri Family Network.

“For the first time in 39 years I kissed someone other than my wife, Lynn. If you want to call that an affair, then you call it that term.”

In an interview last week, Kerry Messer said his relationship with Thomas began around Christmas 2014 — about five months after his wife disappeared.

But Schott, of the Sheriff’s Department, said detectives had confirmed a relationship between Kerry Messer and Thomas months earlier — about eight weeks after Lynn Messer disappeared.

Messer said in an interview that he disclosed the relationship to police voluntarily and upon advice from pastors.

However, police say Messer first told them about Thomas only after authorities already had learned of the relationship from her, while visiting her farm. Hours later, police say, Messer called them to disclose the relationship.

Schott said Thomas was seen by police among search parties organized soon after Lynn’s disappearance. Police said she has refused further questioning.

On to a different topic: The Memorial

Several readers have said they have attempted to call and talk to someone at First Baptist Church Festus Crystal City without success. Without exception, everyone gets a recording. Some have left calm messages asking the church to reconsider their position and listing their biblical reasons for calling. 

How has it gone for you?

I called this afternoon for an update on their reconsideration of holding or not holding the memorial service. Again, I received a recording. I didn’t leave a message since no one has been successful in receiving a call back. There has not been a courtesy reply or a public statement.

Possibilities have gone back and forth, but I have nothing definite… so I’ll wait to update you.

If you have heard that the memorial has been cancelled, rescheduled, or moved, please comment below and let me know.

Multiple readers sent letters to the church this week: Read previous posts for 3 letters, Abram Messer’s response, and my response.

 

 

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Abram Messer regarding obedience

*Disclaimer: This is a letter written in its entirety by Lynn Messer’s son Abram Messer. These are his memories, opinions, and accounts of interactions and conversations. I am committed to publishing works of integrity. In that spirit, I offer this letter to my readers; however, the story, the experiences, and the words are the author’s alone—told from his viewpoint. The testimony presented in this letter does not constitute legal facts, a guarantee, or a prediction regarding the outcome of advice given.

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~Aarron Messer

Regarding Obedience

By: Abram Messer

As many of you know my father Kerry has announced that he is planning a memorial service for my mom at First Baptist Church of Festus Crystal City. Many of you also know that our family also used to attend First Baptist FCC as well. In fact we were members there for over a decade, and pastor Charles McClain even baptized some of my children. We still have many dear friends who attend there. Those friends we thought so highly of, we were sure to invite to my mother’s memorial service in December of 2016. My brother Aarron, was also sure to send invitations to my mom’s friends and acquaintances at First Baptist FCC as well. Due to questionable weather conditions, many of our friends were not able to attend. And sadly, almost everyone else that Aarron invited declined to attend or even respond to their invitation.

So what does this have to do with obedience?

The Word of God has plenty to say about sin, repentance, obedience and reconciliation. And 2 Tim 3:16-17 tells us “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.” This tells us that any questions that we have about ‘what to do next’ can be found in the infallible Word of God. All we have to do is be obedient. We do not have the luxury of picking and choosing what portions of the Word we ‘feel’ like obeying. Nor do we get to skip over the parts that are hard, challenging or that make us uncomfortable. When it comes to our current circumstances, it can be easy to feel very lost… but God has not abandoned us and has left us with a very specific course of action in dealing with sin.

*Just an FYI, I am NOT perfect. I have made plenty of mistakes, struggled and failed repeatedly to wholly live up to Gods standard. I have also never hid these shortcomings, and sought both God’s forgiveness as well as done everything within my power to be reconciled to those that I have offended.

Obedience in response to sin

The Word of God gives us a very detailed outline of what to do when a brother (or sister) is in sin. This process is not one to be taken lightly. It should be done with all seriousness and humility before God, as Ezekiel chapter 3 and Romans 1 lay out our biblical responsibility to call out sin as well as presents Gods firm condemnation on us if we sit quietly by. The consequences of this “sin of silence” ought to be more than enough to demand our attention.

This outline we biblically must follow starts in Matthew 7:1-6

“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you.”

Church goers are always quick to point out verses 1-4, while conveniently editing out the rest of the passage… namely that confronting sin is a serious thing, and our first stop is not the person whose actions are in question. Our first stop is on our knees at the foot of the cross. Dealing with sin always begins with personal reflection, to ensure that our hearts and minds are right before God.

After we have dealt with our own heart before God we move on to Matthew 18:15-20.

“If your brother sins against you go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.”

If we have made certain that our hearts are right before God and we are operating out of the right motivation, then we are commanded by Jesus Christ Himself to go to the individual who has sinned and in love confront them about the issue. If they do not repent, go back with more fellow believers and confront them again. If they still refuse to turn from their sin, we are commanded by God to bring them before the church, and finally… if steeped in their rebellion they refuse to submit to the Word of God, they are to be treated as a nonbeliever and a tax collector. The term “tax collector” here which is used is very interesting, considering He was referring to the Jewish people who had betrayed their countrymen by cutting a deal to work with the Roman officials to extract and extort Gods people.

If an individual still refuses to repent of their sin and submit to God, He still has commands for us.

Ephesians 5:11-17

“Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret. But when anything is exposed by the light, it becomes visible, for anything that becomes visible is light. Therefore it says, “Awake, O sleeper, and arise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you.” Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.”

1 Timothy 5:20-21

“As for those who persist in sin, rebuke them in the presence of all, so that the rest may stand in fear. In the presence of God and of Christ Jesus and of the elect angels I charge you to keep these rules without prejudging, doing nothing from partiality.”

The Word of God stands in stark contrast to the way most churches deal with sin… and sadly this is the case with First Baptist Church of Festus Crystal City. You see I think Dr. McClain kind of was obedient. He did do some things… he did go to the MBC president Dr. Yeats and together they made the decision to remove my father Kerry from his position representing the MBC at the capital (a position, they were very careful to explain was basically a verbal agreement formed through the CLC). But here is where something happened.

I started meeting with Dr. McClain in June of 2015 after discovering my father’s secret relationship with Spring. We met off and on through the end of the year, and I followed up with him repeatedly until the end of the legislative session in May of 2016. All in all, for 11 months we had an ongoing dialogue. That my friends, was a lot of time, tears, and prayer.  I met personally with Dr. Yeats in Jefferson City in the early months of 2016, and he recounted for me his personal conversations with my father in which my father was informed that he would no longer be publicly speaking on behest of the convention. As time went on things continued to disintegrate. My father has refused to speak to me since December of 2015. Despite my pleas for him to repent, and in spite of the fact that I had gone to him in private (multiple times) begging him to repent; in love desperately seeking that he would be reconciled to God, so that our relationship could be healed, he has refused to do so. He has ignored the fact that my brother and I both sat down with him, calling him in love and tears to repentance. His first response was to attempt to pacify me by telling me he was going to turn MFN over to me (which I never asked for) and finally place my home in my name, but also failed to follow through with anything he pledged to do, setting himself up with the legal authority to remove my family and me from our home.

Partial obedience is disobedience

1 Samuel 15 tells us about King Saul being given a direct command from God. Saul then goes out and does… most of it. King Saul does most of what God commanded, but decided that he knew better than God. God responded in 1 Sam 15:22-23 by saying

“Has the Lord as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the Lord?

Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to listen than the fat of rams. For rebellion is as the sin of divination, and presumption is as iniquity and idolatry. Because you have rejected the word of the Lord, he has also rejected you from being king.”

Partial obedience is in fact disobedience; it is nothing more that rebellion before God Himself. Let me phrase that a little bit differently for you… “To not act is to act”.

The hardest part of this whole mess has not been the abuse and betrayal of my own father. It has not been losing my home and career. It has not been the long-term trauma of my mom’s missing persons case, or the years of searching.

It was realizing that Dr. McClain and the MBC, as far as I can tell, chose partial obedience.

I was getting concerned that the MBC was more interested in making sure that they had covered their backside than being obedient when I tried to follow up with Dr. Yeats in 2016. When I finally was able to reach him, he recounted a completely different version of his conversation with my father. A new version which completely whitewashed the very issues which we were attempting to deal with. Furthermore, when various media reached out to the MBC, they chose to tell a third version of why my father was no longer representing them, this time fabricating the story that it was due to budget cuts.

It is with the deepest heartbreak that I tell you that when I met with Dr. McClain days after my father fired me, he chose a side.

I am not telling you this because I am angry and lashing out, nor am I out for blood as some have accused me of. I am telling you this because I believe that I have a biblical responsibility to tell you. For the same reason that I chose to publicly “expose” the sin that my father has become involved in. Someone else’s disobedience is not an excuse for you to be disobedient too. We are responsible to God Himself to be obedient. No matter what.

In May of 2016 I believe Dr. McClain chose to lie. I think he chose to outright lie about the content of 11 months of meetings, and place himself firmly in support of my father. He has not chosen to follow the biblical outline for dealing with sin, choosing rather to be partially obedient. He has done just enough to pacify his own conscience. When I asked him about going before the church, or least of all the deacon body he said “that’s not even going to happen.”  It was not biblical for him to tell me to not tell anyone else at church anything about the investigation, and it was not biblical for him to respond to my tearful voicemail begging him to please call me, but instead he waited a few weeks before emailing me and telling me I should find someone else to counsel with.

This is why we left First Baptist Church of Festus Crystal City. Not because of my father, but because of what I considered blatant, unbiblical actions and the chosen path of Pastor McClain.

I would be amiss if I did not also point out that there are still a tremendous amount of good people who still attended there. PLEASE do not misinterpret my public calling out of church leadership as condemnation of a whole church body. I am well aware of the manner in which information has been used to manipulate and keep people in the dark. For those members who truly have no idea what has been going on behind the scenes, I am truly sorry. I love all of you, and the deepest desire of my heart is that we may all be reconciled. I know there are godly people at First Baptist, many of whom I am still in regular contact with. Some of them have even reached out to me here and there and I look forward to their warm embrace when we see one another around town. I even had one brother reach out to me once, and I hope that as the months go on his schedule would open up enough for him to continue our conversation.  But it is sickening to hear the ongoing criminal investigation of my father regarding my mother’s death and disappearance referred to as a “family dispute.” To do so is to completely disregard and devalue my mother’s life and ministries. All while gravely downplaying open disobedience to Gods commands. I would truly like to have conversations with Dr. McClain about these issues but I fear that is not an option. The last two times that I saw him publicly, he looked right into my eyes, his face got red, and he started breathing heavy… then he physically turned his body away from me and refused to acknowledge my existence. The second time he did this I knew that it was not a case of mistaken identity.

So here is the bottom line. What are you going to do about the memorial service that is being planned at First Baptist? Remember, people don’t typically have another funeral just because they missed the first one. This is not about my mother; this is not about honoring her. If you truly seek to honor her, then walk in obedience, stand for the Word of God. Refuse to accept partial obedience, stand up for Truth. I would encourage you to follow the biblical outline, start with yourself. And in that time of self-examination ask yourself “what if it was my mom?” or sister… or daughter. How would you react to the news that the church leaders who lied to you and withdrew their support from you in the most desperate time you have ever been in, had decided to put together another service without any family involvement. But most importantly, how should you biblically respond?

08/12/2017 3 PM, I would add two things to this in response to various comments I have read.
1. I’ve heard people say for almost 3 years now that my father has not been charged with a crime yet so what can the church really do?
This is very problematic from a biblical standpoint. Go back and reread 1 Cor 5 and Mat 18. Then message me and point out to me where the Word says something about charges being filed. It’s not there. We have to stop confusing sin, with the term “crime”. Crime is sin, but legally not all sin is considered a crime. Is it a crime to cheat on your wife? Nope. Is it a sin? ABSOLUTELY. So we must stop thinking about our biblical responsibility in terms of man’s law, because it is about obedience to a higher law- Gods law.
2. There isn’t really anything more that the pastor of First Baptist can do.
Wrong. Biblically, if you are a member of First Baptist you are under the spiritual leadership of the pastor. The pastor (also referred to biblically by terms like “Shepherd” and “overseer”), is required by the Word to bring sheep who have wandered back into the fold… not passively offer lip service and watch the sheep walk off a cliff.
I would encourage Dr. McClain to have the Biblical and moral fortitude to “reign in” my father and not allow him to continue to control this service they way he is.

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The pastor that ignores an abuser’s profound and hateful lack of love, in order to deal with a relatively minor fault with the victim, has allowed themselves to be manipulated into becoming an instrument of cruelty in the abuser’s hands.

~Psalm 82 Initiative (Facebook forum)

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Aarron Messer: Spring Thomas estate a coincidence?

This is Aarron Messer’s response to my blog post yesterday; Spring Thomas estate case 05/09/2014

From Aarron Messer:

“I wanted to comment on the post regarding Spring’s Father’s Estate. Spring is an only child who cared for her mother and father as they passed. There were no competing claims on her estate. It’s closure has little bearing or relevance aside from the coincidence of events, it’s closure followed by mom’s disappearance. Few of us still accept coincidence as an answer.
After my Grandmother Ruby, Kerry’s mom passed away his father Darryl remarried. He moved off the farm to his new wife’s home in Perryville. Several events happened that led too my Uncle Danny being evicted from the farm after he presumptuously moved into Grandpa’s house. The eviction was forced by Kerry, and this led to Danny being cut out of the will. Kerry was to be the only inheritor of the farm.
Later Abram was asked to move into that same house by our grandfather and the house was given too him verbally by our Grandfather. Lynn and Kerry referred to the house as Abram’s house. Abram never was asked to pay any rent, in fact Abram paid the real estate taxes on his house and more than half the acreage of the farm for the more than a dozen years he lived there. He also paid Kerry for a portion of the farm insurance policy that covered the house. Further Abram paid the utilities on the house which included the well which watered the cattle on half the farm the entire time he lived there. 
As our new step-grandmother aged she broke her hip. She was sent to rehab in a care facility, and grandpa went to visit her everyday. As she recovered and was due to be released from the care facility, her son announced that he held power of attorney over her and decided that she needed to stay in a nursing home. It was discovered that Arbell, Darryl’s new wife did not own the farm that they lived on in Perryville but that her son had failed to list her on the deed as he had power of attorney over her since before their wedding. This produced chaos as Grandpa was told he had to leave the home he had shared with his new bride, her son was going to evict him.
Eventually, Kerry and Lynn had Darryl move into an apartment they had prepared on the farm. Darryl would drive the 40 miles a day everyday to see his wife in a nursing home. As he began to suffer from Parkinson’s Kerry obtained power of attorney over Darryl. The nursing home threatened to sue Grandpa for his assets to pay for Arbell’s care. This threat led to what I can only describe as the most disturbing moral lapse that I had ever seen in my father up to that point. Note this was all before my wife divorced me while I am serving as a pastor and was to result in me choosing to distance myself from MFN and caused an enormous rift between myself and my family as a whole.
Kerry as power of attorney for my grandfather filed divorce proceedings between Darryl and Arbell. His defense, one that Lynn repeated because she was told it had to be this way, was that if they did not do so Abram would be forced out of his home and half the farm would be lost. Kerry had already had half the farm transferred into his own name but the portion that was Abram’s was still in Grandpa’s name. My father told me that to protect my brother he had to force the divorce between my grandfather and his bride.
In what is the most disturbing element after the divorce was finalized Arbell’s son moved her too another nursing home in secret and hid her from my grandfather so he was never able to see his wife again; something that would never have happened if Kerry hadn’t made a financial decision to “protect” Abram’s house. Not that this mattered when he suddenly demanded rent from Abram or else eviction after having lived in his own house for a dozen years. My father suggests that Abram has anger issues, if anyone should be outraged by being treated this way Abram should.
Abram had every legal right to fight Kerry in court over ownership of his home. But Kerry has clearly demonstrated that he will use legal means for personal financial gain without regard for his own family, marriage, children, his own brother or father. So can we see some kind of major story in the apparent coincidence of Spring closing her fathers estate and the immediate disappearance of Lynn? No, but do you actually believe in coincidence? I don’t.”

 

 

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Lynn Messer 3 Years Later: New Q’s & A’s

 

July 8, marks the third anniversary of the day we were told Lynn Messer Lynn 1disappeared from her home. Interestingly though, I have noticed recent posts on Kerry Messer’s Find Lynn Messer Facebook page changed the date of Lynn’s disappearance from July 8 to July 7. I wonder why?

Lynn vanished from the bed she shared with her husband, Kerry Messer, a Missouri state lobbyist for Christian, Biblical, homeschooling, pro-life and family values.

Kerry told his sons and the authorities that a storm woke him up around 4:00 a.m. and that is when he noticed his wife was missing.

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New questions and answers are at the end of this article.

  • Click on colored text to link to the original published article in below paragraphs.

In the first week media stated that Lynn was reported missing by her husband from the family farm, “When Kerry still couldn’t locate her he became increasingly concerned and called 911 to have the Ste. Genevieve County Sheriff’s Department come out to help assist.”  Abram and Aarron Messer, Lynn’s sons, insisted that it was Aarron who placed the call early in the morning, July 8, 2014. The dispatch recording verified Aarron Messer was the person who called law enforcement. 

The public was told, “Evidence at the scene indicates she may be in physical danger.”  

“She has a broken right toe and does not have her walking boot with her. Messer’s purse, cell phone and other personal items were left at her home.”

Law enforcement,  trained dogs, and searchers wearing GPS units searched the entire property. “People wore GPS units on them so we knew what areas we were covering and how dense we were covering them. Once one crew would get done with an area we would send another crew back in the same area with new eyes and different dogs.”

“Messer’s husband had mowed the property and moved the cattle. The sheriff said this becomes a problem for search dogs trying to follow a scent — one dog goes one way while another goes the other.”

During the first days Kerry Messer was quoted, “I could not count the number of specially trained dogs and handlers, all fitted with real-time GPS tracking being fed real-time into a base computer to provide us with a huge map showing the entire path (color coded) of each individual dog throughout the entire day and night.”

”They even reorganized and did a special night-time simultaneous ‘grid search’ in which the entire army of searchers were broken into teams which then swiped the entire farm in small bite-sized pieces.”

“Sadly, this initial search and the outstanding performance of this massive effort produced no fruit other than helping us know with a high probability that Lynn is not physically located on the farm.”

A month after Lynn had been missing Kerry Messer addressed Lynn’s medications in the media.

“The only thing we have got to go on is that her prescribed pain medication could have had an adverse effect on her mind.”

Kerry hopes that it will help others to understand that they may not be looking for someone who knows she is Lynn Messer. He believes that it’s the only real explanation.

“All we know is that the pain pills your doctor prescribed can have a severe reaction, causing you to be totally confused. We fear that you may not even know for sure who you are.

“This confusion can lead you to be fearful of people around you and cause you not to trust anyone. It can also lead you to go places without understanding why you are there.

Sheriff Gary Stolzer. Ste. Genevieve Sheriff County:  We have sent computers off and different things to have tested and analyzed by other people, but the case is just taking its course. We will continue to look into any leads we receive.” 

During these numerous interviews, and in Kerry’s long letters on his Find Lynn Messer Facebook page, he actively reminds the public of his suffering, loneliness, and struggles while missing Lynn. In fact he still writes about his shredded heart over missing Lynn.

What has been frustrating to Kerry’s sons, Lynn’s family and friends, and those who have followed the story is that law enforcement found out just weeks after Lynn ‘disappeared’ that Kerry was already in another relationship with a woman named Spring Thomas. Spring had been a family friend for many years and according to Abram and Aarron Messer there was, and is, more to the relationship than what is being reported.

A recap of events wouldn’t be complete without mentioning ‘the note’. Kerry showed a note to law enforcement; a note that he said was written by Lynn. Kerry refused to show the note to his sons. “Kerry said in the very beginning, law enforcement asked him not to talk about the letter. He didn’t understand why, but just complied. Kerry said he avoided talking about it and the few people he had already told he went to and asked them to not say anything because they wanted to honor what law enforcement had requested.”

According to Abram and Aarron, “for the first 11 months the police refused to allow anyone to see the note. I understand investigators need to withhold information but this was not the case. As they had shared with me, they had refused to show us the note because Kerry asked them not too.”

Lynn’s remains were discovered early November, 2016, on Kerry Messer’s farm property.

At this date forensics tests have concluded that Lynn has been in the elements, in that spot (according to one report), about the entire time, and hair samples showed no evidence of a cause of death. 

I, Carolyn, spoke with Detective White of the Ste. Genevieve Sheriff’s Department on Monday, July 3. He was generous with his time and answered the below questions for me.

I will present them in question/answer form.

Q: Were Lynn’s recovered remains a complete skeleton?  Were there any remains missing?

A: They were consistent with remains that have been in the elements since 2014.

Q: When I spoke with you this time last year you confirmed that Kerry Messer was no longer cooperating with law enforcement. Is this still true?

A: We are not in contact with him and have not reached out to him. We were told last year that he no longer wanted to speak to law enforcement and we have respected his wishes. He did cooperate when Lynn’s remains were found on his property. He could have required us to have a search warrant but he didn’t.

Q: Does this also mean you have no contact with Spring Thomas?

A: Yes

Q: Do you know if law enforcement has been able to search Spring Thomas’ house and property?

A:  I do know, but cannot say. I will say I have not seen the inside of her house.

Q: Kerry Messer has changed, or authorized the change, for the Find Lynn Messer Facebook cover photo. It now says his “page is the only official family and authority-sanctioned page.”  I think most people equate authority with law enforcement. Has law enforcement sanctioned this page?  I’m concerned about what this implies. Could Kerry be referring to law enforcement when he references ‘authority-sanctioned’?

A: No,  we don’t sanction anything.

Q: Has Kerry Messer been cleared of the investigation into Lynn’s death?

A: No, he has not.

Q: The death certificate currently reads, “Undetermined.” Could this status change in the future?

A: A cause of death will not be stated until the investigation is closed.

And lastly, to hear “We won’t stop until we determine what caused Lynn’s death.”  Spoken by Major Jason Schott of the Ste. Genevieve Sheriff’s Department in an interview last week had me thinking there is evidence. Now we just wait on timing for the investigative puzzle pieces to fit together.

I doubt Lynn disappeared from her own bed on a stormy night only to be found dead two years later in an area that was professionally searched by search and rescue dogs, helicopters, and searchers wearing GPS units to map/grid where they had searched.  A woman whose hair samples showed no evidence of a cause of death. As far as we know there were no weapons found with her. What happened to Lynn?

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Lynn Messer: Media Release Statement, Letter to the Sheriff, Kerry changes FLM page

Above photo: Some of Lynn’s favorite flowers were dark red roses

For those of you who have followed the Lynn Messer case I am posting her son Abram Messer’s statement which he released to the media today. (If you are new to this case you may click  “Lynn Messer” in the margin or header; depending on the media platform you use.)

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Photo Credit: J.B. Forbes, St. Louis Post Dispatch

PRESS RELEASE: DISCLAIMER: This press release is Abrams opinion. I will preface it with he thinks this, but it has not been proven and no arrest has been made.  Please recognize that their memories of the events described in this press release may differ. 

So as many of you are aware, I’ve been getting calls from media outlets in light of the information we received yesterday. Here is the statement which I have released:

“Our family is both saddened and heartbroken over the actions that my father has chosen.

No one should be surprised at the devastation which comes from choosing sin. But God is faithful and just to cleanse, forgive and restore us through the blood of the Lamb. He is also a God of justice, and we will stay the course in seeking that justice. So we are renewing our call in begging my father to come clean, and tell the truth so he can experience the peace which only comes through Gods forgiveness.”

There are many Christians who have deliberately decided to twist the Word of God only talking about forgiveness, choosing to ignore Gods commands for His people to be a people who pursue justice…. my friends this has nothing to do with vengeance. We are commanded by God Himself to stand for truth. We are commanded by God Himself to call out sin publicly (after we follow the Biblical steps confronting that sin privately; which yes we have done), no matter how much it hurts. 

Why? Because whatever pain and heartbreak we experience through out that process-—it is nothing compared to the spiritual pain and heartache which comes from complacency.

Please continue to lift our family up before the Throne of Grace. He is faithful… and I must decrease so that He will increase. Whatever you may be going through in your life remember that God is faithful and just to cleanse and forgive. But to receive His forgiveness and restoration we must all acknowledge our sin before Him. His long suffering love which He extends to us has limits which only He can define—for rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft. Repent, turn to Christ—only then will you experience His peace and rest. For when we plant our feet upon The Rock… there is no storm which can shake you.

LETTER TO THE SHERIFF’S DEPARTMENT AND ATTORNEY GENERAL’S OFFICE (From one of the GiveMe Chocolate readers who commented on the article “Lynn Messer Secretly Transported Across State Lines and Buried”

Last night, I sent this to the St. Genevieve County Sheriff, Major Schott and copied the Attorney General’s office.

“I am highly concerned about the lack of activity surrounding the disappearance – and now we know – death of Lynn Messer. Based on the publicly available information, it would seem that Kerry Messer was most certainly involved somehow in her death. I can only assume that law enforcement has even more information pointing in his direction. Nearly three years after her disappearance and nearly a year after the discovery of her body, we still have no action being taken toward Mr. Messer. It would seem that the Sheriff’s department did not adequately search the property in those early days or that the body was subsequently brought to the property after it was searched. Either way, action is called for here.

Today, I’ve learned that the St. Genevieve County coroner released the body to Mr. Messer only to have him take it over state lines into Arkansas without the knowledge of Lynn’s sons, sisters or mother. It would seem that the Sheriff’s department as the lead investigative agency would have certainly known that the body was going to be released and understanding the circumstances, they could have let Lynn’s family members know what was about to take place. These family members could have sought injunctive relief to block the release of the body to Kerry given the high level of suspicion surrounding him and his lack of honesty with Lynn’s family members as well as his reported lack of cooperation – and his girlfriend’s lack of cooperation – with the investigation. Unfortunately, St. Genevieve County didn’t afford Lynn’s family this option. That adds another layer of tragedy upon an already tragic situation.

I called Carl Kinskey’s office several months ago about the progress on the investigation and he said he was just waiting on the Sheriff’s department. Why hasn’t information been sent over to the prosecuting attorney’s office? Where’s the grand jury? Is this an open investigation at this time? I certainly hope that the Sheriff’s office isn’t withholding information from the prosecuting attorney’s office waiting for some kind of air tight case to develop in this very bizarre circumstance. I urge you to send the information you have on the investigation to the prosecuting attorney. “

 

Find Lynn Messer page update…

Did anyone else notice? Kerry changed the “Find Lynn Messer” Facebook page cover photo. It now says the page is “authority-sanctioned.” The sheriff’s office confirmed to me a year ago that Kerry and Spring have not been cooperating with the investigation since their relationship was revealed to investigators. Which authorities is Kerry referring to?

The same cover photo says Lynn is missing as of 7/8/14. Why did Kerry not include that she was found?

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And here is what Kerry Messer has to say about the ongoing investigation:

 

Click here to link to the full length news segment/video:… 

 

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Below is yesterday’s post:

Lynn Messer secretly transported across state lines and buried

Kerry Messer secretly transported Lynn’s remains across state lines for burial.

Aarron, Abram, and Elizabeth contacted family members this morning so they heard it from them first instead of from media.

Rumors have been circulating for the last 2-3 weeks that Lynn’s remains were going to be released to Kerry Messer in the near future. Kerry has posted on his Find Lynn Messer Facebook page that he intended to obtain Lynn’s remains soon.

My sources told me that Kerry informed his church First Baptist Church Festus/Crystal City that he in fact obtained her remains and buried them yesterday.  Lynn’s remains rest next to Grandma Messer. According to the funeral home a pastor was present at the grave side service; along with, Kerry, an unnamed woman, and two of Kerry’s relatives who were named.

Lynn’s sons had remained hopeful that as long as the investigation was ongoing their mom’s remains would not be released. They have reached out to investigators but do not yet have answers.

Aarron spoke with his dad, Kerry Messer, on two separate occasions this morning and this is what Aarron says transpired:

Aarron: “I heard that you buried mother yesterday?”

Kerry: “Why do you care?”

Aarron: “She’s my mother.”

Kerry: “And I’m supposed to be your dad.”

Aarron: “You…are…”

According to Aarron, Kerry hung up on him mid-sentence.

Kerry also stated that Lynn was buried by “the only family she has left, that actually love her.”

“This is who supporters of MFN are endorsing.  A man who takes the body of his children’s mother from the coroner in secret and buries her without a word to her own children, her mother, or her sisters; all out of spite because he is the primary suspect in her disappearance and death.”

Lynn’s remains were released from the St. Louis coroner’s office last week and Kerry had her remains transported to Arkansas. They were cleared yesterday and buried the same day. The sheriff’s office did not have a say in how this transpired; it was up to the coroner. The husband, even if he were sitting in jail, has control of the remains.

Was this a controlling, abusive act Kerry committed against his sons and their families?

This is no quick commute for Aarron’s  and Abram’s families, or for Lynn’s side of the family to visit Lynn’s gravesite.  What else can a father do to traumatize his children?

Lynn’s remains rest in Walcott, Arkansas, in Mount Zion Cemetery under the direction of Heath Funeral Home in Paragould, Arkansas.

Like Aarron, I too thought of organizations who continue to retain Kerry as their state lobbyist. Families for Home Education, is this the type of parents you are? Do you treat your own children in this way, or do you consider this highly dysfunctional? Why do you want someone like this representing you?

Make no mistake; Lynn’s remains being released to Kerry Messer in no way indicates he is no longer a part of the investigation into Lynn’s disappearance and death. The case is open and active with new information still being received by the Ste. Genevieve County Sheriff’s Office.

 *Correction: Lynn ‘ s remains were released from the Ste. Genevieve County coroner.

 

 

*Opinions expressed are not from me. There has not been an arrest made in this case and no one is presumed guilty until proven in a court of law.