WORLD magazine addresses destructive/abusive marriages

Hidden violence

Spousal abuse is a widespread sin that many churches ignore at their—and their members’—peril


Hidden violence and trauma comes in many forms within an abusive marriage. This is what most of my website has been dedicated to addressing for almost the last five years. I want to bring to light that which has remained concealed in darkness through most of history. I’m grateful beyond words that the topic is being addressed by authors and news outlets with high international viewership, and professional expertise.

My goal isn’t simply to pull back the blinds on abusive spouses and find safety, sanity, and healing for the victims. My prayer is that God will miraculously, through the church, bring these abusers to a place of healing. Statistics tell is this is nearly if not completely impossible. It can happen, but the abuser must begin with admitting their sin/abusive character (many have a personality disorder – all are angry and controlling)), they must want the help, and they must seek long-term, professional help from a counselor who works with abusers. Marital counseling is not an option during this time. A victim cannot be expected to sit in the same room with the abuser. The abuser must first seek help and healing.

Here is an excerpt from WORLD magazine…

“As these three cases suggest, refereeing domestic abuse situations is not easy. They often do not provide obvious evidences of broken bones or bruises. Most of the damage from domestic abuse is invisible: It involves repetitive behaviors that terrorize, dehumanize, objectify, degrade, and control spouses. Such abuse is a hammer to the soul, pounding over and over at the personhood, dignity, and freedom of a spouse.

Many church leaders don’t understand the dynamics and effects of domestic abuse, or don’t even believe that such evil exists in their pews. Instead of addressing the deeper heart issue behind abuse, church leaders typically address the behaviors by recommending anger management counseling, couples therapy, confession, and forgiveness.”

Read the article here…

Hidden violence

Spousal abuse is a widespread sin that many churches ignore at their—and their members’—peril






Listen to her frantic heart: Their abuser is trying to move their child away to an undisclosed location



ABOVE: I posted this flashback from high school on my friend Michele’s Facebook page. Michele and I were best friends who lived in Eagle Grove, Iowa, during middle school. I moved to Oklahoma at the beginning of high school and Michele would visit me in Stillwater during the summers and attend my church’s youth group camping trips to the Rocky Mountains with me {Youth Quake}. We have always been so alike in many ways…and so different in others.

I wrote on her FB page: “Happy Birthday, friend! I’m grateful for a friend who enjoys living boldly on the wild side of life. Never boring, usually difficult, excitement around every bend, going to uncomfortable levels to help others achieve freedom and a better life. Here’s to another year! This pic of us is almost prophetic/metaphoric of the separate paths we walk today…we’re both in front; you’re on the left and I’m on the right, holding on for dear life, but heading in the same direction for women and children with similar goals: to make a positive difference in the world. I hope you had a wonderful day today! Love and {Hugs}.

Here is a snippet of Michele’s current chapter of life: This is typical. Studies show that when the dad challenges the mom for custody, they win 90% of the time. When there is documented abuse, perpetrated by the father, he still wins 73% of the time. This is the trauma many of the women I minister to endure.

Michele needs help now before her child is likely transported across USA borders to an undisclosed location where she will have no contact with her child and no means to protect him from her family’s abuser. Please continue reading and if at all possible, grand or small, please contribute to this child’s safety.

I wish family court would understand that a child’s right is not about making sure they stay in relationship with both parents when a family splits apart, but that a child has a right to a non-abusive home. I also wish family court would believe the woman and children when they testify to abuse. Studies show that the protective mothers are rarely lying. 

“Abused mothers tend to receive a mixed message from our society about protecting their children. While still living with an abusive man, a mother can be harshly criticized for exposing her children to him, and given such labels as ‘failing to protect,’ even if she is actually making various efforts to keep her children safe. However, once she leaves the man—which is what the society appears to be asking her to do—she is then at risk of being harshly criticized by family court judges and evaluators for her reluctance to expose her children to the same man, and may be labeled vindictive or told that she is the one who is failing to focus well on the needs of her children.

The sexual abuse scandal in the Catholic Church contains some instructive lessons. In some ways it is not the actions of the priests that was the most shocking, but of the bishops, cardinals, and mental health professionals who enabled the abuse by reassigning known perpetrators or declaring them to be cured when they were not. Family court judges are playing an analogous role in some cases, requiring children to have unsupervised contact with men who have beaten or threatened their mothers, including in some cases where there is ample evidence that their fathers have also been beating or sexually abusing the children directly. Communities that want to rescue children from the wounds of witnessing abuse have to put a high priority on exposing the actions of family law judges and calling for wide-ranging reform to legal procedure in custody and visitation cases.”

When Dad Hurts Mom, by Lundy Bancroft


Click here to help Michele keep her precious, loved  little cutie, and help protect an innocent child! You can enter 0 for the tip amount.Keep the Kid



“February 15, 2018 SHEEP’S SKIN SLIDES OFF: Today the judge got to see what a bully my ex is. It was a grueling day in court with my ex, who is our abuser, but won primary custody of our son in court. It started at 9am, but ended well at 3:45.

I haven’t paid him child support since he last assaulted me and he started using my money to pay criminal attorney fees. The AG in court tried to make arrangements for payments, but he refused to negotiate, insisting that I be jailed for my offense for 90 days (which is the standard sentence plus a $500 fine.)

The AG, unable to reach a payment agreement with my ex had to send it to the judge. I plead guilty to contempt for disobeying the custody order, agreed to the AG’s payment plan, but my ex kept insisting that I be jailed today anyway for my violation. They usually give you 3 months to pay before jail time.

It became clear to everyone in the courtroom that punishing me was far more important to him that actually receiving the money; or the best interest of our son, who would lose visitation with his mom and brother and sister for 90 days; and he obviously could care less about my two teenagers at home that I am responsible for. What would they do?

When the judge asked why I didn’t pay him, I recounted some of his latest criminal activity (stalking, harassment, child abuse, etc.) and told her how hard it is to escape domestic violence and get back on your feet. She didn’t even question it.

The judge didn’t sentence me to 90 days, plus gave me 5 years instead of the standard 3 months to catch up. Then she went on to explain some remedies to get my child back from this monster!!!! In court. In front of everyone! I walked out, not having to pay a dime today, and now he is texting me @#$%# @#$%&# text messages.”

That evening and the days to follow:  “There’s an open harassment case, yet he continues to send me abusive texts.”

This amounts to high stress for anyone on the receiving end of the abuse, harassment, and trauma.

“Survivors of sexual assault actually have a higher rate of PTSD than veterans returning home from the wars in West Asia. I believe this is because of the secondary abuse perpetrated by the police, lawyers, social workers and the court system, who betray the victims by not believing them and insulting them and rewarding or protecting the perpetrators of the assaults. I promise I will feel less traumatized if they actually held him accountable and put him in jail!”

April 2, 2018. “Aaaaagh! I just got served papers. My abusive ex, who won primary custody of our child, is now suing for sole custody of our child, asking the court to let him move away with him, and is asking the judge that I may not find out where they live! He has already gotten a passport application for my son, and I’m afraid he’s going to take him to Mexico!

I already have paperwork to file to get custody back, but lack the funds for a lawyer to present it. I’m afraid if we can’t raise the finances for this, we will not see our child again. Yikes! I’m paying this monster child support, and he’s using my funds to pull this crap!”

One of the most frustrating aspects of a case like this is the abuser’s ability to be a grand actor. To the outside world he looks kind, fun, engaging, a terrific parent, an encouraging provider, often professional…but make no mistake…he’s a monster in disguise; a master manipulator who spins stories to make the victim look unstable. The number one way to identify an abuser is that they never admit guilt or take responsibility for their actions. They deny, justify, explain, and minimize their words and actions against their prey.

 Here is what Don Hennessey, a relationship counselor and former director of the National Domestic Violence Intervention Agency, has to say about abusers. (This covers all types of abuse: physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, reproductive, spiritual, financial.) The ‘psychephile’ is a man who gains control of the mind of the target woman so that he can dictate the level of intimacy and sexual activity in the relationship. Don Hennessery compares a ‘psychephile’s recovery rate to that of a pedophile. There isn’t much proof that they are redeemable.

Click on resources below to read more about this wide-spread problem:

For Abuse Survivors, Custody Remains a Means by Which Their Abusers Can Retain Control



Happy Hour: What do you get?

HAPPY HOUR: Fridays AT 5:00 P.M.—Kick back after a hard week’s work and enjoy the intoxicating goodness of true love and wisdom without putting a dent in your wallet. It’s like free fast food for your soul. ~Enjoy!


When we rely upon organization, we get what organization can do; when we rely upon education, we get what education can do; when we rely upon eloquence, we get what eloquence can do.” A.C. Dixon   

Let’s keep going with this thought process…


When we rely on setting boundaries we get what boundaries can do.

When we rely on the legal system we get what the law can, or will, provide.

When we rely on the government we get what the government can do.

When we rely on money we get what money can do.

When we rely on friends we get what friends can do.

When we rely on our own wisdom we get what our limited thinking can provide.

When we rely on singing, preaching, or church we get what they can do.


 “But when we rely upon prayer, we get what God can do.” A.C. Dixon


I want what God can do!

I need what God can do!

How about you?

My favorite way to pray is to use God’s word; scripture, because it’s full of promises and precedence for us to pray. The words stay flat on the pages of our Bibles until we speak them. They are alive and active, sharper than any two edge sword when we turn them into prayer.


“For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword” Hebrews 4:12


Happy Hour: Cor-alatian (Life Plan)

HAPPY HOUR: Fridays AT 5:00 P.M.—Kick back after a hard week’s work and enjoy the intoxicating goodness of true love and wisdom without putting a dent in your wallet. It’s like free fast food for your soul. ~Enjoy!


Here is the plan I referenced in last week’s Happy Hour post. It’s the summation of verses from 2 Corinthians 8:10 and Galatians 6:10 (verses are listed at the bottom of this post). This is my doable Cor-alatian.

I had a need so I produced a way to meet my needs.

I’m married, homeschool my kids, minister to women in destructive relationships, suffer from multiple auto-immune diseases and other health issues, deal with the dailiness of life like everyone else, and…those are just the things I can publicly list.

Last year, after finishing our spring school semester I felt like my life was stuck in a rut. I wanted to be a more effective, purposeful teacher for my kids. I wanted to regain my strength and energy and not find myself sitting in front of the computer, once again, simply because I didn’t have the energy to do much else. I wanted to finish editing my memoir…and the list went on…

I used to be a highly organized, creative, energetic, administrative go-getter; yet even in my slowness, God still has a purpose for my life; personally, relationally, in the community, and for the Kingdom. I desperately wanted to regain a fraction of my former self and decided I needed to make a plan; a written plan. This would help me stay on track and would allow me to pull it out and read it as an encouraging reminder.

Please note that I did this on my own out of desperation. There are professional life coaches, counselors, and life planners who do this for a living. I’ve never used one; and they would probably get a humorous kick out of my little endeavor, but it’s working with my limited knowledge and my limited budget.

Yes, it is…it’s working for me! I haven’t arrived and I don’t live by it every single day, but it’s made a noticeable positive difference in all areas of my life.



Am I satisfied with my life right now?

I’m know I’m not living to my fullest


What is going on in my life right now? What are my consistent roles in life?

  • School teaching is lacking
  • Writing book isn’t happening
  • Blogging is sporadic
  • Marriage – this should always be a mutually growing and serving endeavor
  • Health is poor with auto-immune diseases, tiredness, aches, headaches, illnesses
  • My quiet times with God are lacking and I know this is about my heart, soul, mind and strength condition


What makes me happy?

  • Basking in God’s presence and hearing from Him
  • Praying
  • Listening to hurting women and helping people
  • Writing
  • Educating people about fraudulent personalities and validating hurting women married to these types of men
  • Accomplishing a productive day in school
  • Using time wisely
  • Feeling healthy
  • Being with friends
  • Meaningful time with my family
  • Working out


What are the drains?

  • Destructive relationships
  • Poor health
  • My physical pace of life has slowed down and I can’t accomplish as much as I want to accomplish
  • Internet – wasting time


What isn’t working in my life?

  • Destructive relationships that I have no control over
  • Health
  • School schedule
  • My schedule
  • When I complain, lack self-control, or are negative I lose my strength for the moment and possibly for the day.


What would my ideal life look like? What would my future roles be in life? Future goals?

  • Healed relationships
  • Finish editing my book
  • A larger platform for ministering to abused women
  • A platform to testify to the power of prayer
  • Respond to life from a place of love; not frustration or anger
  • Change our state laws to better protect children caught in the middle of divorce from an abusive parent
  • Change our state laws to include fault based divorce
  • Succeeding with school schedule
  • Using time well
  • To feel fully engaged in purposeful living
  • Know how to set a healthy boundary and consequence when the need arises

What do I need to do to get that life?

  • Wake up refreshed; not tired and stressed
  • Quiet time before I leave my room
  • Breakfast
  • Get ready/watch listen to podcast each morning
  • Teach school
  • Clean for 20 minutes
  • Write/edit 1/2 hour
  • Check emails/messages /social media while eating lunch
  • Keep a list of internet work so I don’t get side-tracked when I surf the net
  • Organize, decorate, create art or furniture, or purge 30 minutes
  • Make healthy dinners for the entire family
  • Go to the gym
  • Return phone calls & messages
  • Write 1 hour
  • Have an office with privacy where I can keep my work accessible


What do I really want to accomplish in this life?

  • Homeschooling
  • Finishing my memoir and finding how God rewards me.


What kind of person do I want to be?

  • Real…in relating to and serving others
  • Faithful to God
  • Prayerful
  • Inspires others to pray


What is most important to me in life?

Now that my children have a relationship with the Lord, seeing them love the Lord, love others, and find godly mates to help them pass on their spiritual heritage. Serve others from a place of compassion, having purpose because of the painful things I’ve endured in life.


Why do I want whatever it is that I want?

There is nothing more important to me. I know I’m being obedient to God’s calling on my life.


How would I like to be remembered?

I sought the Lord with excitement. Listened well to others. Followed God with no regard to what others thought. Risked everything to hear and obey His voice. Lived with joy and purpose despite difficult circumstances and traumatic relationships.


What will my life be like if I never change the way it is right now? I will still be living a supernatural lifestyle to the glory of God. My kids will know I love them.


So then…

Seek hard. Listen well. Follow freely. Risk everything. LIVE NOW.

Galatians 6:9-10 says, “So let’s not allow ourselves to get fatigued doing good. At the right time we will harvest a good crop if we don’t give up, or quit. Right now, therefore, every time we get the chance, let us work for the benefit of all, starting with the people closest to us in the community of faith.” (MSG)

I love this passage in 2 Cor. 8:10: “So here’s what I think: The best thing you can do right now is to finish what you started last year and not let those good intentions grow stale. Your heart’s been in the right place all along. You’ve got what it takes to finish it up, so go to it. Once the commitment is clear, you do what you can, not what you can’t. The heart regulates the hands. This isn’t so others can take it easy while you sweat it out. No, you’re shoulder to shoulder with them all the way, your surplus matching their deficit, their surplus matching your deficit. In the end, you come out even.” (MSG)

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This has produced fruit in my life. I’m calmer, more focused and purposeful, utilizing my time sooo much better, keeping a tidier house, I have an office (Yay!), enjoying more ministry, and the best changes are; responding from a place of love; not frustration or anger and  practicing self-control so I stay positive rather than slipping into the negative. My heart, soul, mind and strength feel so refreshed in these areas.

The only item I’ve utterly failed at is having my Bible study in my room first thing in the morning. I usually manage to wake up and talk to God, but Bible study happens sometime between breakfast and 2:00 p.m.

If this kind of  plan will help you, please feel free to copy, paste, and change what works for you.

I hope it brings you happiness and produces a better, more purposeful life!


Lynn Messer: Reversal of Destiny Part 3 conclusion

Lynn Messer: Reversal of Destiny Part 1

Lynn Messer: Reversal of Destiny Part 2


Remember how Lynn studied soil and wanted to help others through that studying? Put it in terms of a reversal:

Lynn studied soil to reveal a better life—end of life will be revealed through the study of soil.

If someone was responsible for her death: Whoever hides the death of Lynn on soil—from the soil the cause of death will be found.

The forensic results have not been fully reported. If I read or heard on the news correctly, the FBI took soil samples which means they will be looking at all the layers of soil, fallen leaves and natural debris to see if it matches up with what was found on and around Lynn’s remains. It could possibly reveal if Lynn’s remains were located there the entire 2 years and 4 months, or if she was placed there after the fact. Forensic Soil Analysis is the use of soil sciences and other disciplines to aid in criminal investigation. Soils are like fingerprints because every type of soil that exists has unique properties that act as identification markers.²

God, through scripture, has set the precedence that reversals can happen; which means we have permission and authority to pray for one. In doing so, let’s speak the Holy Spirit’s language: scripture. As we ask our mediator, Jesus Christ, to present our requests to our Heavenly Father we can be assured that our desires are in line with what God can do and has delighted to do throughout history. If a crime was committed against Lynn Messer, let us together seek a reversal of destiny for the person or persons who need to be brought to justice. Lynn’s family longs for answers and justice over this traumatic event through which they are currently living.

All the ‘sudden’ unknowns to us are known by God. When the enemy interjects events and plans into our lives he thankfully doesn’t have the last say. Christ does! And Christ can intervene any way of His choosing. God can use the horrific, the thing we hate doing the most, and/or the crime or abuse that has been committed against us for good; it’s scriptural: “And we know that all things work together for good for those who love God, who are called according to his purpose,” Romans 8:28 (NET)

Let’s agree in prayer and pray these scriptures over the Lynn Messer case:

Matthew 18:19 (NIV)

“Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.

Proverbs 13:16 (NIV)

All who are prudent act with knowledge, but fools expose their folly.

Proverbs 16:22 (NIV)

Prudence is a fountain of life to the prudent, but folly brings punishment to fools.

Proverbs 18:6 (NIV) – The lips of fools bring them strife, and their mouths invite a beating.

Proverbs 18:7 (NIV) – The mouths of fools are their undoing, and their lips are a snare to their very lives

Proverbs 26:27 (NIV) Whoever digs a pit will fall into it;
if someone rolls a stone, it will roll back on them…

Ecclesiastes 4:5 (NIV) – Fools fold their hands and ruin themselves.

Psalm 52 (NIV)

Why do you boast of evil, you mighty hero?
Why do you boast all day long,
you who are a disgrace in the eyes of God?
You who practice deceit,
your tongue plots destruction;
it is like a sharpened razor.
You love evil rather than good,
falsehood rather than speaking the truth.
You love every harmful word,
you deceitful tongue!

Surely God will bring you down to everlasting ruin:
He will snatch you up and pluck you from your tent;
he will uproot you from the land of the living.
The righteous will see and fear;
they will laugh at you, saying,
“Here now is the man
who did not make God his stronghold
but trusted in his great wealth
and grew strong by destroying others!”

But I am like an olive tree
flourishing in the house of God;
I trust in God’s unfailing love
for ever and ever.
For what you have done I will always praise you
in the presence of your faithful people.
And I will hope in your name,
for your name is good.


If there was deceit in Lynn’s sudden death we pray for the evidence to show truth and sudden revelation.

As was the case with my reversal of destiny, God was using the lapse of time to bring not just temporary protection and deliverance but permanent protection, deliverance and justice. God knows the truth of what happened to Lynn. Let’s pray for the investigators to find truth and gain closure.

Let’s pray specifically. If we ask for nothing we can’t be disappointed. I like to throw caution to the wind; after all, our Great God commands the wind! I’m well aware that God is not a genie in a bottle. He answers in His time and His way with His Father heart full of love, mercy and wisdom, and sometimes the answer is—no, or not yet. But…when we specifically pray; God often precisely answers. When He does answer, and I know it’s an answer to a question or request I prayed, there is nothing more exhilarating than watching my little, tiny mustard seed of faith through prayer move Heaven.  Knowing the God of all creation loves me, hears me, and interacts with me is the most fun, the highest high, the coziest comfort, and the biggest gift—EVER! All while knowing I did nothing to deserve it. I simply pray for His heart and will to be done and that He will override my wants with His best; basing my prayers on His words; scripture.

I’ll add to, Pastor Pat Crisler’s, message title…For a Sudden, Unexpected Death…An Unexpected, Sudden Answer.

Thank you for joining in this prayer.



Lynn Messer: Reversal of Destiny Part 2

Lynn Messer disappeared July 8, 2014. We now know that Lynn has been deceased the entire time and I have been told by law enforcement multiple times that Kerry Messer, her husband, has not been cleared in the investigation surrounding Lynn’s death.  Kerry is a Missouri state lobbyist who represents family, homeschooling, right-to-life, gun rights/safety, and Christian/Biblical values. Lynn’s remains were found on her husband’s farm property November 1, 2016.

Read Lynn Messer: Reversal of Destiny Part 1 here…

Today I am pointing out times in scripture where we see reversals of destiny that set forth a scriptural precedence for us to pray over the investigation surrounding Lynn Messer’s disappearance and death.

History, in the book of Esther, shows us what Esther at the moment couldn’t see. She remained obedient to what she knew to be true. This is a wise and beautiful lesson for us today. When we can’t figure out what God is doing; where He is, perhaps we can’t sense His presence and we wonder if we will ever find Him; we must remember God is there. Some day we will look back on the most important or difficult times in our life and we will see God all over it! It may look like it took months, years, or a life time for the something to happen yet we will often see it had a turning point that was sudden.

In the book of Esther, everything Haman meant for evil; for the death of Mordicai and the destruction, slaughter and annihilation of the Jews; God suddenly reversed allowing the plans to be used against Haman, and provided for His chosen people to be saved. The intervention can only be explained as a work of God.

Here are more scriptural reversals of destinies:

  • Joseph’s brothers decided to harm him. They sold him to get rid of him. Joseph later sells food to his brothers to save them: Joseph’s brothers hated him and refused to listen to anymore of his, “You bow down to me dreams.” His brothers sold him to merchants on their way to Egypt. While in Egypt Joseph interpreted dreams, became 2nd in command over all of Egypt, saved his brothers, his father and their families, and the brothers bowed down before Joseph. Sold as a slave; becomes a ruler. Genesis 37-45
  • Pharaoh’s horses and riders surround the Israelites at the Red Sea. The Red Sea surrounds and drowns Pharaoh’s horses and riders. Exodus 14
  • King Nebuchadnezzar, “Is not this the great Babylon I have built as the royal residence, by my mighty power and for the glory of my majesty?” He is driven away from people to live as a wild animal outside his kingdom. After 7 years King Nebuchadnezzar acknowledges that the Most High God is sovereign over the kingdoms of men and gives them to anyone he wishes. God restores Nebuchadnezzar’s sanity and kingdom to him. Daniel 4
  • King Darius’ men falsely accused Daniel so Daniel would be thrown in the lion’s den to his death. God saved Daniel, and the King’s men were thrown in the lion’s den to their deaths. Daniel 6

The Book of Esther

  • Queen Vashti was summoned to be seen. Suddenly she was seen no more.¹
  • Haddasah an orphaned Jewish girl among the exiles; the least and the last to ever be chosen becomes the Queen of Persia; royalty, wife of King Xerxes.
  • Haman who thought he had planned his own parade of honor suddenly finds himself parading around the person in his world who he hated the most; Mordicai.
  • Haman builds a 75 foot high pole in which to hang Mordicai but suddenly finds himself hanged on the very pole.
  • The irrevocable edict that will destroy, kill and annihilate the Jewish people and nation suddenly allows for the Jewish people to do the very same to anyone who tries to kill them.

The reversal that happened to Haman is a warning to us that vicious consequences can happen to us when planning violent acts or traps for others.

  • “God made the one who did not know sin to be sin for us, so that in him we would become the righteousness of God.” II Cor. 5:21
  •  From darkness to light: “and giving joyful thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of his holy people in the kingdom of light.  For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves,”Col. 1:12-13
  • “Once you were not a people, but now you are the people of God; once you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy.” I Peter 2:10
  • Robber on the cross, not a believer, who was at that moment destined to hell; confessed with his mouth and suddenly, within minutes, found himself in paradise. Luke 23
  • Peter and John were fishers of fish who became fishers of men.
  • Paul: A persecutor of Christians became the persecuted.
  • Rich man; poor man, the rich man and Lazarus died and went different paths. The rich man enjoyed all his good on the earth and his agony in eternity. The poor man, Lazarus, received bad things on earth and comfort for eternity. Luke 16

When life feels heavy and bleak; as if the time for finding an answer is about to expire, we must remember that for those who have accepted Jesus as their Lord and Savior, God sees us and He is actively at work in our lives.

As I was listening to Pastor Pat Crisler speak at Lynn’s memorial service the idea of praying about a reversal popped into my mind.

Join me next time as I conclude with the exact reversal I’m prayerfully requesting for Lynn.



Happy Hour: Thrive despite difficult circumstances or relationships?

HAPPY HOUR: Fridays AT 5:00 P.M.—Kick back after a hard week’s work and enjoy the intoxicating goodness of true love and wisdom without putting a dent in your wallet. It’s like free fast food for your soul. ~Enjoy!

Do you ever feel overwhelmed or defeated? Do you feel like you have too many people, or circumstances, against you in life and they’re keeping you from thriving?

I believe we are called to live an abundant life no matter where we are planted. I know it’s easy to feel like we have too many stresses in our lives to do this, but I’ll let you in on a hush-hush fact our enemy doesn’t want us to know. We don’t need anyone else participating to live the abundant life God called us to live.

Thoughts like:

If my husband would…

If my children would…

If my parents would…

If my friend would…

If my boss would…

If my neighbor would…

If my president would…

I my church would…




We are individually called to spiritual maturity; strength in God.

Do you feel like you’ve crashed and burned? Do you feel like you’re living in spiritual sickness? Are your dreams dead? Is your energy gone?

Please hear the tenderness and excitement in my voice.

God has something to say about this…here is a word from our Sponsor!

“…for each one should carry their own load.” Galatians 6:5 (NIV)

I especially like how The Message version states this concept.

“Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life.” Galatians 6:4-5 (MSG)


Do you know what this means? We can still enjoy a purposeful life despite what is going on around us!


God should be the center of our life; the hub from which all else has its being. Think of Him as being the gardener who plants the seed.  He puts the seed, His word, within us. Everything that grows from that seed has is origin in God and every new leaf or sprout stems from Him. Our responsibility is taking care of the soil. How do we care for the soil? We make sure it’s being watered, nurtured, and weeded. What we think about, what we believe, what we do, and what we allow in our life are ways we care for the soil of our soul. When we take responsibility for our environment we get our power back.

We can’t control people, but we can control what is happening inside of us. We can control much of what enters our mind.

God wants us to protect ourselves and our environment and I believe He honors that commitment by growing our little mustard seed of faith.

We can’t change the past, a spouse, a marriage, a divorce, a child, but we can give our self a healthy soul for moving forward!

Tune in next time when I will share a deliberate plan I made for empowering my life, and I’ll tell you how the plan is working.